There’s so much to talk about…

Hey Folks:

It has been a really long time since we last chatted and to
be honest, this year has been filled with lots of changes. Since my last post I’ve
changed full time jobs, sent a kid to college, turned 40, changed side gigs and
celebrated my 20th wedding anniversary. We’ll go through each of
those items one by one and I’ll catch you up.

As you may remember, I was pretty stressed out with work for
a long time. This stress caused me to really rethink what was important in my
life and whether or not most things were worth it. In the end, I decided to
apply for a position that was actually in my degree field, health and wellness,
and I got it. I’m now just one week shy of my one year anniversary. The thing
is, no job is perfect, and yes, while I have less stress in some areas, there
are other things that I am getting accustomed to. This doesn’t mean that I am
heading for the hills, but I am determined to never allow myself to get to the
level of frustration that I felt before. I’m grateful that I am able to work in
health and wellness and hope that I am able to impact lives the way that I
would like to.

My oldest daughter graduated high school and left for
college which meant that this year was filled with an enormous change in my
role as a parent. Now I try to be more of a “consultant” as she begins to
navigate adulthood. There are things that she does that I don’t necessarily
agree with, but it’s all part of her learning/growing phase, and I suppose it’s
part of mine too. She’s doing well and heading into her second year and I can
certainly say that I am so proud of the young woman that she’s turning into.

Turning 40 has been a complete and total whirlwind. There
has been something about it that I’m truly starting to like most everything
about it. I honestly think that my time leading up to 40 has put almost all of
the other major changes in my life in perspective and likely prompted a few of
them. There has been something about it that I can’t quite put my finger on it,
but I think it has to do with knowing what I’m about, knowing what I stand for,
and no longer being willing to accept less than I deserve. I’m giving myself
permission to dream again. And not little dreams either, big dreams. I don’t
want a big house filled with stuff (you have to clean it, or pay someone else
to), I don’t want a bunch of fancy clothes (I’m not a fancy person and while I
like to dress up on occasion, I don’t need all that, I’m not trying to impress
anyone), what I want is a life filled with experiences. The ability to go and
do the things that bring me joy without having to ask anyone for permission. If
you are someone who enjoys the big house and fancy clothes, go for it. I’m not
saying it’s wrong, it’s just wrong for me.

On the note of giving myself permission to dream big, I
chose to change my side gig. Initially I signed up to be a coach through
Beachbody for a few reasons, 1. It was in health and wellness, 2. It gave me
the ability to work on my own fitness while helping others, and 3. I saw it as
an opportunity to provide additional income and potential financial freedom for
my family. Fast forward nearly 2 years and I was never quite able to advance in
rank. I’m not blaming anyone but myself because I struggled to get comfortable
with approaching people about their fitness goals. Yes, I work in health and
wellness, but that doesn’t mean that I am able to easily walk up to someone and
chat with them about a fitness program. The other thing was that while I had
the programs and shakes available, many people chose to either order them
directly from Beachbody (ie, the infomercials with the special payment plans)
or they were getting stuff off of Amazon. All of that made me lose interest in working
that business. I believed in network marketing, I just couldn’t make it happen
with that particular product.

Fast forward to this February and I started seeing posts
from former team mates about wine and how they were in the WINE BUSINESS.
Eventually I asked for more information. When I reviewed the info and got on
the phone to discuss it further, I knew that it was a no brainer. This business
model and product just made since. Also, I am actually starting to have success
in this business because other people see where this can go. This is the one
business that I have tried that I truly believe that I can be successful at and
begin to free myself and my family, from the chains of financial bondage. This
is the business that with a little hard work, I will create a legacy for my
family. This is the business that I can use to help other gain their own financial
freedom.

My hubby and I celebrated our 20th Wedding
Anniversary and while the first 20 has been good, our plans for the next 20
will knock your socks off. A lot of it has to do with getting on the same page
about what we want and how we plan to obtain it. Now that we are mostly there, we
can begin to make the necessary changes in order to move towards the life that
we want to lead and to be able to Live Life on Our Terms. Again, the life that
we are working towards has nothing to do with adding more “stuff”, it is about
having the ability to live life to the fullest. I’m so glad that we want to do
this together and that we are creating a plan of action to get there. 

Jess

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Whole30?

Hi Folks:

Can I just say that it never fails that as soon as you try to start doing the right thing by going to the gym and eating right, something pops up?

My pop up happened to be some weird lingering sinus/cold/allergy thing that sucks the life out of you. I started feeling bad last Wednesday, it came in like gangbusters and I felt like I got hit by a truck. In fact, I’m still dealing with it a whole week later. Needless to say, my workouts and food choices have been compromised. As far as working out, I can’t really fathom lifting weights when it already felt like an elephant was sitting on my head. My food wasn’t so great because if I don’t cook, we typically end up grabbing something quick and easy (translation: fast food).

With all of that going on, I’ve still somehow managed to lose another 2 pounds since last week. I’m grateful for it, because I have to continue to see progress in order to maintain my motivation. I’m still doing a modified Atkins and planning to move into a primal approach soon, but I’m currently reading “It Starts With Food” by Dallas and Melissa Hartwig and it has raised some very real questions that may make it worth my time to complete a Whole30 before I completely move into primal. I say that because there are food items that I still currently eat that may need to be eliminated just for the basis of my general health and not for weight loss. There are so many of the health conditions that the book lists that I have or am experiencing and this is the kick in the behind that I’m using to do something about it.

I feel like the Whole30 will be doable because I am currently limiting my intake of added sugar (though I need to deal with the substitutes, like Splenda and Stevia), grains, and alcohol. I may not deal with a lot of the “withdrawal” symptoms that others go through because I have already gone through them. My challenge will be, as it always is, trying to deal with cravings and making sure that I have Whole30 complaint foods on hand that do not require a lot of effort.

I’ve learned that meal planning and prepping is the best thing that I can do to ensure that I have a successful week. When I take the time, like I did this week, to cook extra food and put it into containers, etc. All I have to do in the morning is grab and go. It makes my life so much simpler. Yes, I do get bored form eating the same thing for breakfast and lunch all week, but I try to mix it up for dinner and for my snacks. I haven’t decided when I want to start my Whole30, I’m still reading the book to get a full understanding of the program and I would like to make a meal plan for the 30 days so that I limit my risk for slips.

I’m praying that this will be an eye opening experience for me and my husband and that we are able to take this challenge head on, commit to it, and use it to move forward with the rest of our lives.

Jess

DDP Yoga Weeks 5 & 6

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Hi Folks:

As promised I got back on my DDP Yoga train and I am on the move. It feels really good to be back on my game and to do the things that I needed to do. Work has still been a challenge but I know that as soon as my position changes in June, I’ll be able to have some semblance of normalcy; with the exception of learning a new job. By the way, did I tell you that I got a new job? 🙂 I’m really excited because this one of the first times that I’ve ever really decided on something and went for it. I’m excited for the challenge that it will present for me.  

Now back to my health and fitness, week 5 I wasn’t as consistent in my eating as I could have been. No real excuses, my kids were out of town and I didn’t want to cook so we ate out A LOT. Week 6 was much better as we got some shakes from Vemma Bod-e to drink for breakfast and some lunches, and we eat healthy snacks. In all I’m proud to say that I’m pleased with how I feel right now and am so ready to keep it up. Belly bloat has decreased and my head is mostly clear, with the exception of those days where my allergies and sinuses get the best of me.

Our Workouts for week 5:

Monday Energy  
Wednesday Energy  
Saturday Fat Burner  

 

Week 6:

Our Workouts for the week:

Monday Fat Burner  
Wednesday Energy  
Sunday Fat Burner  

 

I’ve added some additional workouts in there, like a run and some additional cross-fit style workouts that I can use to help me continue to build strength. I’m looking forward to the coming week because even though I have a parent meeting and 2 softball games to watch, I’m going to make time to get it in. I will make this happen, I will reach my goal.

Oh and by the way, I’m down 1 pound. Woot Woot. Back on it baby!!!

Jess

Confessions of a Stress Eater

Hi Folks:

I AM A STRESS EATER!!

Ok now that I have that out of the way, I can move on.

The month of March and now the beginning of April have been extremely stressful at work. The end of 2013 was stressful but in a different manner than this. The end of 2013 was filled with stress surrounding high volume, meaning I had a lot of work to get done in an extremely small amount of time. My recent stress is surrounded by the opportunity for change. I was recently approached by a friend about a position on her team that would potentially mean a higher pay grade and more money.

That all sounded attractive but as I started to delve into the process, from deciding that I would actually apply for it (what could it hurt), talking it over with my boss, updating my resume, applying, etc… I started to think about what I really wanted in my career and if this position would take me where I want to be. Because I actually applied and interviewed for this position I was able to sit down with several people and discuss my career and from those discussions I’ve figured out that there are so many positions in the bank that I don’t have a clue about and I have to start sitting down with people to learn more about what they do and if it is something that I find interesting. One of the results of a discussion with my manager’s manager is a position that I’m interested in exploring. In fact, I’ve had a discussion with that manager and have started listening in on some of their project calls to see if I have an interest in joining that team.

I say all of this to say, all of this “finding” myself, career discussions, and my everyday job have left me a bit overwhelmed at times. Even though I have a group of managers who are more than supportive of me and recognize that I work hard and want to help shape my career, I’ve still been feeling so much stress that I start looking for carbs at every turn. Unfortunately I have not been successful at walking away from them or even stopping myself from going to get cookies, chips, and candy. This is something that I’ve got to work on, got to figure out how to combat. Stress is everywhere and I can’t run around eating junk every time I experience it.

I work out pretty regularly but it’s all for naught if I can’t control my eating. I mean yes, working out has improved my strength, cardio endurance, flexibility, etc… but I haven’t lost any weight and I know the exact reason why. I have to do better. I will do better. I AM BETTER!!